As we all mitigate our low-level freak outs during this odd and unprecedented time; as we become more isolated as schools, jobs, public events, and seemingly all of life get sequestered to our homes, how do we avoid complete disconnection?
I’m noticing that we may not know how to connect fully without touching. Usually, we shake hands, high five, hug – these are go-to and maybe robotic greetings; our most minimal attempts at connection to other humans. When we are highly advised against those things in the midst of a virus on the loose, what is left? Awkwardness, it seems. But if we no longer have the thread-thin forms of connection between us, I fear most of us won’t know how to adapt to other forms of connection that honestly, we all really need, especially now. I fear that most of us will accept that this is only a temporary stop to usual greetings so we assume that we don’t need to even attempt to connect in other ways.
I, of course, want this all to be temporary and sorted out ASAP, but I offer that we make big attempts at connecting even more with our fellow humans in innovative ways. One of our greatest traits as a living, intelligent being is our ability to adapt. One of our most primal instincts to survive tough times and to thrive in good ones is to connect with others. Use your birth-given traits to maximize your instincts to not only ride this out, but come out of this the best we can.
So, how can we stay connected in new ways? I myself am coming up with things on the fly because who’s experienced this level of craziness, but here are some ideas as I too crave reassurance by connecting with people:
Give full attention when someone is talking to you.
Make full and deep eye contact when talking.
Express extra kind and compassionate communication.
Stay connected to nature in some way even if just appreciating the clouds, rain or otherwise.
Meditate on world healing. I know that sounds woo-woo, but a powerful collection of good thoughts from many directions works. And if you don’t believe it works, it cannot hurt. It may help you feel better. Concentrating on alleviating other’s suffering often brings me more relief than I anticipated.
Be helpful. Thinking about other’s wellbeing is a beautiful thing. Doing something is powerful. How do we help in these times? I’m trying to come up with innovative ways that fit the situation and I’ll share as I experiment more. Comment if you have ideas.
Send appreciative texts.
Give random, heart-felt compliments.
Tell someone you’re thinking of them.
These may be obvious suggestions; simple things that we still might not be doing. This immediate era of no-touching is – like all challenges – an opportunity to deepen our human experience with each other that can help with the worry and uncertainty. When we come out the other side of this — and we will — we can hopefully continue to thrive in our new-found levels of connection. It will only help our lives in the long run, in bad times and good.
Stay safe, family. Stay aware. Stay connected.
I love you all.
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